how do you love

How do you Love?

I wanted to start off by talking about that oh-so-wonderful thing we call love. We hate feeling it, love feeling it, feel it on different levels, in different ways, for inanimate objects, pets, ideas, people. How do you love?

What a diverse and strange feeling/emotion/word. It’s kinda awesome!

When we’re children love comes so easily and naturally. We fall in love almost instantly with things, people, and places. We make best friends on the playground within five minutes just because someone is wearing our favorite color or likes ‘My Little Pony’. However, as we grow up we start to give our love grudgingly. People have to work for it. We don’t love just to love. We love because people do things for us, because they earn it. It is no longer simple and easy.

Why is that?

When do we get the lesson that we can’t love easily and freely? We are alive and beautiful and made perfectly how we’re supposed to be by the universe. Isn’t that reason enough? I have a goal. My goal is to love everyone I come in contact with. I want to be this big, fuzzy, ball of love to everyone I meet. I know it’s silly and unrealistic even, but why not try?

Right in this moment, I adore everyone. There may be things I dislike about them but you know what? All the people that I have in my life are awesome. I don’t care if I’ve known you a day or years and years. You are amazing and I’m thankful for you.

I feel like so many people have come into my life just so that I can love do you love others

I don’t have to get along with them, understand them, be like them, but I can love them. I can love them when they hurt my feelings or make me mad because we are all flawed in some way, but so so perfect in other ways and deserving of love.

In the past I’ve had problems saying “I love you”, expressing my love in productive ways, letting the people in my life know how much gratitude I feel for them. I want to be done with that. Finished completely! It’s time to be in love with life, myself, and everyone else. Sometimes it’s hard to do but it’s so worth it in the end. I believe that the love you give out to the world you get back.

It is important to have love for others, but not nearly as important as loving yourself. Loving yourself is probably one of the hardest things to do. After all, if you had to live with someone every waking second of every single day, knowing their every negative thought about you, it might be kind of hard to feel the love.

You have to love who you are.

That’s one of the very most important things in life. How you feel about yourself affects your friendships, relationships, jobs, home life. It’s not easy, it’s just like every other relationship. It takes work, and communication, and time and effort. It takes the ability to show love.

If you were with someone that never told you that they loved you and then told you you looked fat or ugly or called you boring, or said that no one really liked you, would you find it easy to love that person?

Of course not!

Look in the mirror and tell yourself how awesome and attractive you are. Do things for yourself that make you feel good and pampered. Don’t ever talk to yourself in a way that you wouldn’t talk to your best friend, child, or spouse. You are just as deserving of love and consideration as they are. So, love you, love you, love you! Think about how amazing your body is and all the wonderful things it’s done with you throughout the years. Pretty amazing!

This life doesn’t last forever and I think we’re wasting it if we aren’t showing love to the people that we love. We should all try our very best to express love to those people in our life that make living life worth it, even the people that drive us absolutely batty, be honest, life would be boring without them!

How do you love others? Grudgingly? Freely?


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