So hey there!
The last few weeks have been a rollercoaster of suck and un-suck. Just when I thought I’d gotten over it something else popped up and made me miserable.
I was suffering from Post-Project-Blues and that was just the start of the avalanche of OMGMYLIFESUCKS.
One of my favorite people at my pays-the-bills job quit without letting me know and aside from that making my job a million times harder than it had to be, I was really close to him and I got very heart-hurt over the fact that he just left. It triggered all of my abandonment issues, which brought up all sorts of gunk.
The gunk leaked over into my business and I spent a day being very resentful, feeling like everything I do sucks and wondering why I put in so much time into my business when no one really cares. You know the spiral. I think we all have days like that. And then I started feeling suuuuper alone and lonely. I just wanted to throw up my hands and wail “Why meeee?!”
The other day I was exhausted and frustrated when I got off work, my feet hurt, my back hurt, I was short-tempered, and annoyed and I really didn’t want to be. Those emotions had run their course and they were no longer needed. Feeling that way wasn’t helping me do anything but feel sorry for myself, which is fine, I’m good with wallowing, you just can’t do it for too long. At some point you’ve got to decide that it’s time to feel something different. Being grumpy helps shine light on stuff you need to deal with but once the grumps have done their job, you gotta move on. You gotta take time for you.
Even I forget to love myself sometimes.
The last few days were full of self care. I took a little break from business-stuff. And then I had a nice little ritual of Self Care to chase away the grumps,
I took a nice, hot, candle-lit, bath full of wonderful lavender and I just allowed myself to soak and relax and it was wonderful. I took extra care washing my hair. I am very proud of my long curly hair and it was so soothing to have it thoroughly washed and paid attention to instead of the usual wash-and-condition-as-quickly-as-possible. I felt like I was being pampered. It was lovely. I then laid down in bed and listened to music while just letting myself be and feel. Afterwards I felt renewed and rejuvinated and more myself and it was pretty flippin’ fantastic.
See ya latter Grumps.
What is your Self Care ritual when you’ve got a bad case of the grumps? If you don’t have one, what are some things you can do the next time you are feeling down?
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Let me just tell you how much your business and all that you put into it DON'T SUCK! Even just your blog have made such a huge difference in my own life. You have given me hope and inspiration and that is HUGE! The way you share and make your readers think is an amazing thing! I have love for all that you do!
It's very inspiring to me to hear your journey, Dominee. Even though you get discouraged, you forgive yourself and take care of yourself when all is said and done, and still manage to help others. You are successfully achieving your mission as a lightworker, there is no doubt about that. IT is so neat when we all get to see one another as separate so that we can see the good in others, it also helps us see the good in ourselves. Because we are all ONE when all is said and done. Blessed be, Dear One!
I know that why-bother-everything-I-do-sucks-and no-one-cares mood. THAT is what sucks! Must have been in the air. I took some time away from the computer to do some art journaling and non-business reading and spent face time with friends and it was oh so much better after that. I also asked for help and got some encouragement which helped too. Asking for help is new to me.
I'm glad you took care of yourself and feel better now.
I love watching Golden Girls, it's my instant mood lifter.
Big hugs to you! It's good to know that I am not alone with those feelings, I just remembered there's a section in the Business Goddess e-course about staying happy and such through business stress, I think I must go and re-read that.
I also need to find time to make art. It's been so long!
Well said Sellica! I think every now and then I need a reminder that I'm on the right path and making a difference. Sometimes I start questioning if it's just ego and an inflated opinion of myself, or if I am really creating change. It's a difficult process sometimes.
Thank you for affirming that I am doing what I am meant to do! <3
Thank you so much! This meant so much to me and really lifted my spirits in a way that was very much needed. Sometimes I forget that what I do does matter, it comforts my heart to hear tangible proof. Thank you so much dearheart!
I take a long bath preferably with epsom salts and marvelous body wash. Then if I can, spend time gazing at the sky. Afterward, watch a favorite movie or read a great book. The idea is to clean my body, mind and soul as much as I can.