Being the single lady that I am, over the years I’ve gotten used to going out and doing things on my own. I like going out on dates with myself and treating myself to little adventures. On Wednesday, I went and saw World War Z (because zombies are awesome) and I had a great time sitting by myself enjoying the movie.
Chances are you’re afraid of feeling awkward and looking weird.
There are so many ideas for solo dates. You can go out to dinner, go out to the movies, go get a massage, or a manicure, or visit a museum. You can go to the bookstore and then to a coffee shop, or go look at art, or find good live music to listen to. Taking a trip to the park and enjoying writing blog posts used to be a favorite of mine!
Don’t let being alone intimidate you!
If you feel a little awkward about being alone bring along a book, notebook, sketchbook, a laptop, or a fully charged phone, it’ll makes things a little bit easier, and if you start feeling awkward you can distract yourself. If you need a little bit of inspiration on the whole aloneness front CHECK OUT THIS VIDEO it’s totally inspiring and after you watch it you’ll feel pretty good about the going out alone thing.
You can also have a stay-at-home date.
Cook yourself a great meal. Take a luxuriously long bath. Have a movie-marathon of your favorites or watch the newest release. Cuddle up with a good book. Make a cup of delicious tea. Sit outside on the porch and enjoy being alive.
For your date, get all dolled up, wear what makes you feel good and confident and sexy. Put on makeup or don’t, wear a dress or your favorite jammies, as long as you’re happy it’s all good. Think about buying yourself a new outfit or even new underwear. Never underestimate the feeling of absolute world-dominating power you can feel with some pretty, sexy, underoos.
I used to love going out to eat by myself. Although I'd take a book, phone or whatever I could really concentrate on enjoying whatever I was eating. As Julia Roberts said in "Eat, Pray, Love": "I'm having a relationship with this pizza!"
I love this, Dominee. I've been in a relationship for nearly 10 years (4 years between relationships before that) and it's an important reminder for me. Sometimes I forget and I bemoan that noone likes the music I like or the movies I enjoy and I don't go. I'll remember this post and do it next time something comes up :-) I feel like a dish of garlic prawns in a restaurant has my name on it too :-)
I'm with you all the way here! I've always loved "single dates" and I also go on holiday on my own. These days, I don't go out as much but I'm organising "me-evenings" regularly, either with movies and good (or fun-but-unhealthy) food, a glass of wine, or reading cuddled up on the sofa with some good music playing. I love it!