Welcome February, it’s nice to meet you! If you’re working through the Self-Love Planner, then open up to February and start making plans, self-care and otherwise, for the rest of the month. Let’s do a self-care assessment!
Intentionally creating plans for yourself is such an essential part of self-care. You’re not just thinking “I should try to do x this month.” You’re writing it down. You’re putting it out into the world. Even if you don’t quite meet your goals (I don’t always!) the fact that you are making the effort and intentionally choosing yourself – it’s a great act of self-care.
Let’s do a little self-care assessment.
The easiest way to find out what you need going into this new month is to take a look at where you were lacking support last month. So let’s take a really hard look. Take a deep breath and check in with yourself for a few minutes. This is a wonderful opportunity to practice mindfulness and to sink into your body.
So often we put ourselves on autopilot. We just do the things we’re supposed to do every day – eat, sleep, work, take care of the kids. We forget to be present, really present, in what we need.
Allow yourself to take a few minutes to check in with how you’re feeling.
What were you lacking in January?
Were you feeling stretched-thin because you weren’t managing your time? Were you feeling in need of more attention or affection from the people in your life? Maybe your boundaries need a little work because you let people infringe on them? What everyone needs is different. Those needs don’t have to be anything big. Maybe all you need is to take some time to catch up on your favorite show or drink more water.
How is your body feeling?
Pay attention to the signs that your body is giving you. Rest, relax, recuperate, and prevent yourself from getting burnt out. Notice those signs that your body is giving you right before you’re about to get sick, or when you notice yourself getting anxious, or when you feel extra fatigued and need to cut back on the caffeine and get more sleep.
What boundaries do you need to enforce?
Are you saying yes to things you don’t want to do? Are you letting someone else infringe on your time/space boundaries? Take a stand for yourself. Set boundaries. “I need ___ right now.” should be part of your daily vocabulary.
Are you needing to set boundaries with yourself? Are you being mean to yourself? How’s your self-talk? Are you getting easily upset or frustrated with yourself? Pay attention to the way that you talk to yourself. Positive self-talk helps.
Is there anything upsetting you or bothering you?
When you put off uncomfortable emotions they have a way making themselves heard whether you want them to or not. Confront the things that are bothering you and do your best to deal with them. Communicate.
Have you taken care of your basic needs today?
There’s more to basic needs than shelter, food, water, and sleep. What are your basic needs? What’s something essential that helps you to function and feel good on a day-to-day basis? Do that thing.
What are you holding onto that you need to let go of?
Guilt for not doing enough or being behind on something? Imposter syndrome. The Not-Good-Enoughs? Let go of the baggage. Stop being so hard on yourself.
If there are things that happened in January that you’re still holding on to, how can you let them go so that you can move on into this new month
Take the time to answer these questions and adjust yourself accordingly.
Taking care of yourself emotionally, mentally, and physically, is what life is all about. Don’t neglect yourself. Love yourself.
Do you need more support?