If you took my survey you might have seen the part where I ask you what you want me to write about. A lot of you wanted me to explore the Sacred Feminine, and you know what? I think that’s a great idea.
What is the Sacred Feminine?
The Sacred Feminine is about seeing women as sacred and divine and exploring that connection. I realize that I spend a lot of time encouraging you to see yourself as sacred and beautiful but I want to delve into the knowledge that all women are part of something sacred. I’m going to start showcasing things that embody the sacred feminine. Stories, women, poetry, thoughts, that inspire you to see women (yourself included!) as this beautiful force that you are. Women are amazing and I think that when you begin to see yourself as part of that energy and beauty, then loving yourself will come easier, you’re totally a part of that beauty! I want to share with you an excerpt from the poem “Still I Rise” by Maya Angelou. I saw it on facebook a few weeks ago and I was just struck by the beauty and the power of it.
Does my sexiness upset you?
Does it come as a surprise
That I dance like I’ve got diamonds
At the meeting of my thighs?
I love those lines, they just speak so eloquently of our value as woman and embracing our sexuality. How do you feel when you read those lines?Are you able to embrace your sexiness? Feeling sexy can be really difficult, especially if you have body image issues. When I reached adulthood my body image was so bad that I never felt sexy. Eventually I got my first boyfriend and the only time I felt sexy was when he told me I was.
My sexiness and my value was given to me by someone else.
If he treated me like I was nothing then that was the value I then assigned myself. It took me a long time to realize that it was my job to assign value to myself, not someone else. It took a lot of inner work for me to realize that my body is sexy, and that sexy is my own definition. I look at my body and I see luscious curves and smooth skin and jiggly bits and that is sexy.
I create my own definition and my own value.
I'm very, very good at being sexy – as far as I am concerened, I have the gorgeousest body in the world – however, I really feel vulnerable "being" sexy openly – cos I'm a dancer, I'd be the one who would go to the club, dance away (not grinding or rubbing myself all over like in pop videos mind, and wearing more clothes than everyone else in the club mind) and have a stream of men come and try to grope my ass, stare at me creepily or try to grind against me. Ergh. I've always felt that my natural state is one of sexiness, but it's almost as if I don't trust the world with it, as if the world can't handle it without me getting in trouble! Ha, how arrogant does that sound! In my profession (I'm a bellydancer) being intentionally sexy is really really frowned upon. So that doesn't help either.
Hi sweetie~
I've always had a very healthy sexuality, a full sense of sexiness, sensuousness and sexual confidence (I'm writing an ecourse on all that, now, to encourage other women to view their sexuality as sacred, and to help them have confidence in their power), and feel that our sacred sexuality as women is not just sex ~ it's a part of the path to self-actualization.
I must have missed this post back when you first published it, or I saw it and just wasn't ready to read it, but I found it today because of your "Top 10 of 2013" post, and this is just perfect timing. I've been feeling very, very unsexy lately for so many reasons and this post was very uplifting for me. I love love love this post!!! I would love to read more like this. :)
I have just found my word for 2014! it will be a challenge but I think I may be up for it! Many thanks for the post. it came at the Perfect time as usual!