For the longest time, I’ve been really intimidated by Instagram. There’s just so much prettiness! At the same time, I’ve also been really frustrated with my Facebook Page. Facebook algorithms make it so hard for posts to be seen unless you pay money to “boost” them. I have over 20,000 fans on my Facebook page and I’m lucky if I get 50 likes on a post. It’s so discouraging!
I decided to try my hand at Instagram and it has paid off big time. In just a few months I went from 5,000 followers to almost 20,000, insert cheering!
I’ve really been focusing on creating good content, so here’s the best of February, so far! Be sure to follow me over there if you’re interested in more self-care memes!
The healing journey is never linear. We make progress and then slide backwards, make progress again, and then hit a point of stagnation….
It’s so important to see it as a journey. It takes the time it takes. So often we try to rush healing. Pushing our bodies when they need time to heal, pushing our hearts when they need time to mend. Don’t rush it. Learn from the process and take care of yourself.
Last night I was thinking about the baggage we carry around. okay, let me be honest, I was thinking about the baggage *I* carry around. My anxiety has been higher than usual lately and it’s because of this exact reason. Dead weight. Carrying with me things that are pointless to drag around.
Today is a lesson in letting go and loosening my grip.
What baggage are you ready to let go of?
Never forget your worth or the beautiful things about yourself.
At the 2019 Grammy’s, Lady Gaga used her win to make a statement about self-love. I had all the feels about it.
How are you practicing self-care today? What makes your soul feel all happy and shiny?
I wrote a really long post about intrusive thoughts and thought-loops so
If you suffer from anxiety and/or depression then you’re probably well acquainted with intrusive thoughts and thought-loops.
When it’s anxiety you get anxious about one thing and then suddenly it’s all you can think about. When you’re depressed it’s often suicidal thoughts.
These are some of the ways I cope with those thoughts.
Read the blog post! Before I met my wife, I lived alone for 12 years (minus the cats, gotta count the cats)
Through that experience I learned that not all loneliness is created equally.
Loneliness is valid.
Some loneliness requires action. Pushing past isolation, insecurities, and finding ways to cope with social anxiety (that’s always my struggle!) Other times it’s important to learn to be happy by yourself with hobbies, activities, and you know… liking your own company (something I struggled with for a LONG time)
Understand your loneliness instead of ignoring it.
I’m popping in today to remind you (over and over and over as many times as it takes!) that your needs matter.
Especially if you are a people pleaser.
I am a (reformed) people pleaser and it’s freaking hard to break that habit of swooping in and taking care of others before you take care of yourself. Like, really hard.
I used to think that if I loved enough, did enough, gave enough, it would fill the empty, hurt, lonely parts of myself. And wouldn’t you know, it never worked out that way. I just ended up depleted and even emptier.
Take care of yourself (and your needs) LOVE all over yourself. Indulge in the things that make you feel good until it’s no longer indulgence but necessity.
What do you need right now?
There have been times in my life when I was very critical of my feelings. In fact, when I first started my self-love journey i shied away from feelings like jealousy or anger.
I thought that forcing myself not to feel those things made me a better human.
I wanted to be so calm, so zen, and so put together. That perfect vision that we see everywhere.
I thought if I could conquer all of those “bad” emotions, it would mean I was “good”. What I ended up learning was that those feelings weren’t the problem (most of the time) it was the actions that came with them. The acting out or the internally beating myself up – that was the problem.
Insert coping skills.
Feel all of your feels, even the messy ones
You are human and often times it’s messy and chaotic. It’s just how its supposed to be.
On my darkest days of
In case you need the reminder, you matter. You are needed here. You are loved more than you could ever know.